My mom suffers from chronically high blood pressure. She has since she was pregnant with my brother, who is now 31.
My mom managed her hypertension by following the traditional doctor’s indications — medication and a diet low in salt and fat — pretty rigorously for years, and whereas these measures kept her numbers within a “healthy” range, this kind of treatment never leads to improvement. If she stopped taking medication, her blood pressure would raise again.
For a long time my mom never thought too hard about her medical care, but things started to change because she got very, very sick. So sick, she feared she was going to die. She had a degree of fatigue she could only explain as feeling like her body was slowly shutting down. She thought she would die on her sleep.
Many doctors’ appointments and tests afterwards, no one could explain to her what was going on. Highly intuitive as she is, she felt that somehow the medical establishment was killing her. She decided she needed to change her strategy all together.
She stopped going to regular doctors and looked for an alternative solution in energy medicine. Thankfully that worked! Just as quickly as she recovered her health, she lost the little faith in conventional medicine she still had left.
Turns out that the combination of a new diuretic drug her doctor had put her on with the very strict low salt diet she was following were demineralizing her body at a pretty fast rate. And yes, at that pace, she would probably have died quickly, had she not decided to radically change her course of action.
Ironically, the recovery treatment was fairly simple. Some tweaks on her diet — she needed salt!! — plus a few IV’s with bio-available minerals brought the relief, in less than a week, that months of constant doctors visits couldn’t.
My mom didn’t get “cured”, however. She still suffers from hypertension. But that episode helped her understand that the prospect of taking medication for the rest of her life was not only unappealing, but in fact, unsustainable. The need to work towards healing, rather than managing her symptoms forever, became evident.
So, how has my mom’s life changed? How’s aiming for healing different from managing her symptoms? Especially because, as of now, she is still taking medication?
The most important shift she experienced, was of perspective. My mom had given into the idea that she would take medication for the rest of her life, and that there was nothing she could do to change that. But now, she can consider a different reality in spite of what the doctors said for years. She is pushing herself out of her comfort zone, and she has faith it’s worth it.
Over the years, I’ve worked with many people who for one or another reason, went through a similar paradigm shift. They were forced to search for an alternative solution to their health problems, because they came to understand that the standard ones weren’t sustainable.
But there’s no healing magic pill…
Healing takes time and patience. It requires that you start thinking longer term than you probably ever have: How is what I am doing, or eating or thinking NOW going to affect me tomorrow? What about next week/month/year?
In order to heal, you need to consciously re-evaluate your priorities. How are you investing your time/money/energy? Why? What are the things that truly matter in your life?
Healing the physical body can’t happen in the physical plane alone. It is a process that involves all your being — the way you feel, think and act. Healing is reinventing yourself.
And there’s also plenty of frustration…
You may start working with a holistic practitioner of some sort. They say you need to change your diet and focus on your stress management. That alone is overwhelming, but you try your best. You feel somewhat better, but it’s not enough. You may try acupuncture, homeopathy, or chiropractic. You experience some recovery, but it certainly doesn’t seem proportional to the amount of work you’re putting in. And maybe, just as in my mom’s case, you cannot wean yourself off medication as you had planned…
You doubt yourself. Why can’t I get well? What am I doing wrong? Is this diet really helping? When can I stop the meds? Will I be able to, ever?
And there are setbacks. Something that seemed to be working, after a while, just doesn’t any longer and you have no idea why. And that happens again. And again. More doubts creep up on your mind.
How long is this going to take? 6 months? A year? Five? No one can say for sure. Sometimes it seems like you were doing better when you were eating your takeouts, drinking your coffee and unconsciously popping your pills.
Believe me, I hear you. But, as I ask my mom when she gets discouraged, just how long has it been? In her case, over thirty years. That’s how long her body has relied on medication to regulate her blood pressure. It’s been about five since she considered to change her course and no more than two since she became really proactive about it. After the changes she’s made, she is on half the dose of a less concentrated drug than what she was taking two years ago. What about you? Healing takes time!
Treating chronic conditions with medication and doctor’s nutritional indications — given the poor understanding of nutrition that most doctors have — doesn’t lead to improvement, but merely to maintenance of the disease. I don’t know about you, but to me that’s unacceptable, because I know that the body is an incredible machine, that’s constantly rebuilding itself.
So, what’s the secret?
There is no secret. But if there were one, I’d say it is to accept that healing is a journey, not a destination. Your health will improve over time, if you work at it. You might even get off of medication sooner than you thought you would. And you will get to know yourself better than you ever did. Become an advocate for your own healing and a witness of your progress. Not only will you get healthy but you will create a richer life experience for yourself in the process.
No one says it’s easy, but it is totally worth it. And you deserve it.
Do you or anyone close to you defied the medical establishment and found your way to the amazing self-healing capacity of your own gorgeous body? Will you inspire others by sharing your experience in the comments?
This is for you P. My heart is yours.